New York NY, January 17 – Arden Leigh, author of the book The New Rules of Attraction and our Ask Arden relationship advice columnist, has brought her power and beauty to the world of music! Her new band Arden and the Wolves hit the stage for the first time at RBar on Bowery in NYC on January 17th. Her stage presence was enthralling. The best thing besides the music is the band’s look, Arden is very fair, like a Snow White, and her band members are very rock and rough (I mean rough in a good way boys!). Band members include lead guitar Gabe Mera, rhythm guitar Mick Royale, bass Percy Trayanov, and drums Matt James.

Arden Leigh took a few minutes to answer our questions!

What made you want to start singing?
Arden Leigh : I can remember wanting to sing for as long as I’ve been alive. I would sing at recess in school and the other kids would tell me to shut up. I spent most of my adolescence and early adulthood singing in theater, but that got old. I started writing acoustic singer/songwriter stuff in my early 20s, and then later decided I wanted to take advantage of my higher range. Indie pop rock bands (Paramore, Anberlin, The Classic Crime) have always been the kind of music that gets under my skin, and that’s what I wanted to put out there.

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The New Rules of Attraction
written by Arden Leigh

reviewed by : Jennifer Link

In December 2011, when Auxiliary contributor Arden Leigh’s first book The New Rules of Attraction came out, I picked it up right away. I however didn’t read it for a few months. I wanted to read it but also it wasn’t a top priority on my large book shelve of things to read, as I am not in a position in my life to need advice on dating and getting into a new romantic relationship. Having now read the book I realize, this isn’t just a book about seducing new romantic partners, it is so much more. Arden doesn’t just offer a guide to seduction, she offers a guide to life.

New Rules starts off with tips on polishing your persona and appearance. As a person who believes in beauty in one’s life and the value of shaping one’s appearance and style to fit their aesthetic, this chapter spoke true to me. Next she moves on to building a good social status, and taking concern and an active role in how those in your scene and social circles perceive you. Next she lays out the steps to attracting people to yourself. Then she gives advice on taking that attraction and turning it into emotional connections. The last part of New Rules gives tips on how to manage and maintain your relationship once you get there. Then lastly, she offers insight on viewing seduction as a generous and life improving act rather than a manipulative and hurtful act. She states her code of ethics and that if we are hurtful and selfish in our seductions in life, we will get results that reflect our carelessness. She advises that all people have strategies for getting what they want, whether they are conscious of it or not, and that if we choose to actively think about them, we can improve their effectiveness. Throughout the book, I felt Arden was reinforcing the things many of us already know to be true, putting them into words, and telling you the things you need to hear, that we often forget. Things that seem so simple but when stated out loud you realize might have gotten lost in the messiness of living life.

I really valued the information in this book. I feel most anyone could gain something from it too. This book teaches you how to seduce beyond the dating world, it offers advice on seducing new friends to add value and excitement to your life, it offers advice on seducing new clients and fans, it offers advice on bringing to you the people you need and want in your life. The tactics in this book have many applications. New Rules is told from a viewpoint that those in the fetish scene, a subculture, or any way of life or thought that doesn’t fit perfectly into the mainstream, will really enjoy. There were tons of great stories on Arden’s time as a professional dominatrix that I am very excited and hopeful she releases the book on her life story as a pro-domme in NYC that she promises in the book.

for more from Arden Leigh check out her advice column Ask Arden in an issue of Auxiliary Magazine

Arden Leigh’s The New Rules of Attraction: How to Get Him, Keep Him, and Make Him Beg for More

You should be done with your holiday shopping by now, so it’s time to get something for yourself. And if you’re not done shopping… than all the more reason you’ll need to turn your attention inwards. Pick up a copy of Arden Leigh’s brand new and first book, The New Rules of Attraction, and between holiday parties this weekend and next use it to kick back, relax, and focus on you. Arden Leigh is a fresh voice on women’s dating and relationship strategies with experience in neurolinguistic programming, psychology, pickup artistry, and the fetish industry, and a long time contributor to Auxiliary Magazine. But her writing is on more than just dating and seduction, underlying that, it is about being the person you want to be, strong, confident, and able to get what you want. For a taste of what this book has to offer check out her advice column in Auxiliary Magazine, “Ask Arden”, or her blog “A Weapon of Mass Seduction”.

The New Rules of Attraction is available online for $15 at www.amazon.com.

- Jennifer

Starting in February, just in time for Valentine’s Day, Arden Leigh (who you may have seen in Auxiliary already as the April/May 2010 Issue PinUp and as an editorial contributor to the Oct/Nov 2010 Issue) will be penning an advice column for Auxiliary! To have Arden answer your most burning questions and pressing issues, please send your queries to askarden@auxiliarymagazine.com. Questions should be about seduction, dating, relationships, style, personal growth, or just generally being awesome. All queries will remain anonymous when printed in Auxiliary.

photo by Ron Douglas

Arden Leigh is today’s freshest voice on women’s dating and relationship strategies. Bringing together her experience in neuro-linguistic programming, brand marketing, psychology, pick-up artistry, and the fetish industry, she coaches women on developing a proactive approach to achieving their romantic goals. She is a co-founder of the Sirens Seduction Forum for Women and the author of the seduction handbook Whipped. When she isn’t writing or coaching, she enjoys being a part of the New York nightlife scene as a personality and performer. She maintains her seduction blog at www.ardenleigh.typepad.com and will now be writing a regular advice column for Auxiliary Magazine!

Please send your questions to askarden@auxiliarymagazine.com and look out for her first advice column in the upcoming February/March 2011 Issue!