Dear Chrissie,
My boyfriend and I have been together for the past four years.  We constantly declare our love for each other and while he does occasionally compliment me, he’s got the worst case of the wandering eye ever.  Whenever we go out, he ogles these cheap looking Paris Hilton look alikes.  I try not to let it bother me, but I can’t help it.  When he looks at girls that look so different from me, I secretly freak out that given the chance he’d dump me for a bleach-blonde tanned bimbo.  How do I deal?  Is it him or me?  Help!

Sincerely, Dakota [Pittsburgh, PA]

Dear Dakota,
While this behavior from your boyfriend might be annoying, you have to realize that he isn’t blind, or dead (yet), and he will notice other girls.  But it is one thing to look and another thing to actually go about trying to get with them.  From what you tell me, you both seem very committed to one another and truly love each other.  So I would guess he isn’t about to go after these girls instead of being with you.  If he were that type of guy then he probably would have done that a long time ago.  I wouldn’t look at it as being a problem so don’t make it a problem.

Luv, Chrissie

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