I have had these lingering questions of people and their definitions of style by labels. I often wonder why there is such an “obsession” and fascination of labeling a person, clothing, music, etc. I do understand that labeling is a much-needed tool in order to be descriptive. I guess in my adult years I have thrown out all concepts of “scenes” and “rules” because my own tastes have changed and have been molded through the years. Basically, it’s not high school (for me) any more.
Now, I can be judgmental and opinionated when it comes to fashion, but I like to believe I dress decent and have some knowledge on the subject. I’d like to think I know my likes, my body, and my ability to take some fashion risks (which don’t always work out, I know I have some photographic proof that’s EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!). But I wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and see me! I walk to my closet and I dress according to whatever the day calls for, I certainly don’t think, “Wow, I’m a Goth+Rockabilly+Victorian girl!” It’s just plain silly to even conceptualize that statement and it’s exhausting!!! I guess what I’m saying in these long statements is, dress and wear what you like!
So much emphasize on labels: Rockabilly, Goth, Cyber-Goth, Rivit, Noize, Raver, Psychobilly, Punk, Indie-Rocker, Hippie, Prep, Geek, Hipster, Greaser, etc, etc. makes my head hurt! But all are valid statements to make when describing a person, am I wrong? But why totally define yourself by the dress, music, or culture of a scene?
My best friend Melanie discovered I liked Rockabilly/Psychobilly music at our (now closed) local Goth bar, The Continental. We went to use the ladies rooms at the ground level of the bar and there was a band playing, the band was the former local band The Quakes (there are still some original members living in Buffalo, NY). I stood by a pole in the back of the bar tapping my boot along with the music, Melanie came from the bathroom and said, “I didn’t know you like this sorta music.” My secret was out! I was a closet Rockabilly fan, ala Elvis!
I guess I “hid” my interest in this genre of music as I just really didn’t know anyone who was into the scene and since I was so steeped in the Goth scene….I was just embarrassed and didn’t even know where to start! Which now when I look back years later, it’s just plain silly! (Hey, my dad was a REAL greaser in the 50’s….D.A. and all!) Why did I hide my interests? I really don’t know, other than my guess of just being afraid to let go of sticking to the “status quo” of being a “goth”. I was letting the fashion define me completely and not let me, define me!
Please, I’m not a preacher and I’m certainly not trying to get you to change yourself…it’s just food for thought. Basically do whatever the hell you want, because my fiancé and I are still trying to figure out what “label” fits us both best. So far we’ve just come up with Derek and Meagan as the best ones. ;)
<3 Meagan Kyla